TRUST: QIDAKINGIN’S POINT OF VIEW

Going by the Dictionary meaning of the word ‘Trust’, according to Wikitionary.org, Trust is defined as ‘’confidence in or reliance on some person or quality.’’ With this simple meaning of Trust, we can see that having trust in someone really means a lot. Firstly, because the trustee has both confidence and reliance on the trusted. Secondly, this should be also respected because it takes good respect along with honour and dignity for someone to have trust in another person.

Once the trust has been betrayed, I tell you, for the average man, that is the end of it all. One cannot gain that credibility again due to the fact that no matter the amount of pleading from the person who has lost his or her credibility, he or she already has a dual-personality to that individual whose trust has been betrayed. He or she might find it hard to stand up for that person again or even believe the utterances of that individual.

Trust doesn’t necessarily mean just the monetary aspect only but all others like: one being known for his or her credible utterances, someone being able to stand up for the individual whenever he or she is in a situation where trust has to come in, the totality of an individual’s behaviour and attitudes being what people cannot doubt and many other instances.

It also stretches as far as your friends knowing you will always call them back whenever you promise to call back, your younger siblings knowing you to always fulfil your promises made to them. Most people are no longer worthy of people’s trust because of the small or trivia things they might have done and never paid attention to it as something worthy of notice. Subsequently, they lose their credibility dignity and respect from people.

You don’t need to promise someone if you are either uncertain or confused about what the outcome of a particular thing could be; Never make promises to do this or that when you are not sure of it. It is better to put it in such a way that there would be probability in your speech. For example, you might say; ‘Insha Allahu (By God’s grace), I would get you the clothes when coming or I would help you with your project. Probability makes you stay clear of whatever commitment that might be inherent in your speech and also gives you that personality of someone who will always help out if he or she is permitted by time or has the financial capability to do.

Never betray people’s trust and in case of a tight situation where the individual wants to be sure of your intentions, instead of making a promise which might not be fulfilled, just say ‘By God’s grace...’

These and many other possible solutions will surely save you from embarrassment and shame. Learn to keep people’s trust.

 I still remain my humble self, Quadri Qudus Bolaji a.k.a. QIDAKINGIN and I just want to sensitise people on trust-related issues.

Thank You!