QIDAKINGIN'S BLOG

Oftentimes we meet someone we really love and would want to be with for a very long time if not a Lifetime. But one of the things that get us messed up is the fact that we don't usually say or do the right things at the right time when saying or doing them would actually matter the most. Ladies like to be pampered, listened to and understood. The moment a lady tells you that she is SCARED to commit herself to you and you don't know what exactly to do or say, take it from me, you've lost her, her confidence in you and a part of your integrity too is also gone. What should one do when a lady tells you she is scared to commit herself to you? I don't know many things to do or say but I know one thing to say and one thing to do ; Just tell her you're also SCARED to commit yourself to someone but you'd like to be scared with her so both of you can both work out your fears together and if possible try to give her a very warm embrace or better still an assuran...

Oftentimes, people are sorry for doing certain things, being who they are, for being sincere, for being unable to pretend, for being direct and realistic with people and situations. But I personally feel this is a very wrong thing to do. Why should I be sorry for being Original? On this note, I want to let the whole world know how Unapologetic I am as regards the things I've done in the past, things I've said in the past, people I've placed right and situations I've handled in the past. Sorry I'm not sorry for being Outspoken when you expected me to be a recluse. Sorry I'm not sorry for being Intelligent, Smart and Tactful when you wanted me to be a foolish, dumb and dull individual. Sorry I'm not sorry for being Unavailable when you expected me to be readily available. Sorry I'm not sorry for always Criticizing you for all your wrong doings when you thought I should have praised you. Sorry I'm not sorry for being a Realist who views issues d...

 There is more to living, more than just EXISTING as a being. There is more to life than being a SUCCESSFUL MAN or WOMAN. There is more to life, than being a LEADER or a SERVANT. There is more to life than being a PROFESSIONAL or an AMATEUR.  There is more to life than being WHITE or BLACK. There is more to life than being a SOCIAL COMMENTATOR or a CHOLERIC. There is more to life than being BRILLIANT or UNDER PERFORMING.  Your SUCCESS in this world would not be measured with what you were able to achieve or who you were but the level of your FUNCTIONALITY and USEFULNESS to the world at large not only your family, friends and acquaintances. Your PROSPERITY isn't the MONEY in your bank accounts, the MIGHTY BUILDINGS your money can buy, the FLEET OF CARS you have in your garage, the EXPENSIVE GEMS you have in your closet, the DESIGNER WEARS you have but the number of PEOPLE that smiles as a result of your PHILANTHROPIC ACTS, the number of CHILDREN that leaves the streets...

  Mr. Leader, Mr. Chairman, Honorable Councilor, Mr. President, Mr. Governor and all off you in one political post or the other I call on you today not to criticize but to sensitize you. I beseech on all of you today to ask a very pertinent question. A question millions of people you lead would like to ask you but they can’t, a question that is very important to the significance of your held-post  Which are you? A serving leader or a politician? Are you a serving leader who has the interest of your people in mind? Or the politician who is personal interest which is at the detriment of the masses? Are you a considerate, egalitarian, disciplined, hardworking, visionary and accountable serving leader? Or the inconsistent, unjust, undisciplined, selfish and unreliable politician? Which are you? The one who ensures the masses’ interest are pursued to the very best of his abilities or the nonchalant politician who only cares about being elected into power and does not fulfill ...

Today’s walk was that usual morning walk from Cape Town (Ile Apa) to Faculty of Agriculture mosque which is my everyday routine coming from home to school. This particular exercise takes place mostly in the morning due to my 8am lectures. This morning walk has been my routine for the past two years so it wasn’t a special thing or occurrence. I expected it to be the usual thing i do every day so I never paid attention to any new thing and never expected some different to happen until a particular experience happened. This experience in question taught me a very good lesson about life. I set off very early in the morning in order to be punctual to my 8am lecture at Faculty of Arts. On getting outside, I met my neighbour living next door on the way and we both began the journey together after we exchanged pleasantries. On our way to school, we met other colleagues on the way and walked past them. After trekking for a few minutes, I noticed that he was walking fast just to beat time fo...

  Sudden admiration! Unexpected admiration, unplanned event leaving a long lasting effect on the mind and the heart. You never expect a man to be taken back at first sight nor think a man could be charmed by the beauty of an angel. Like the morning sun, she shined brightly! Just like the stars glittering, her figure projects the perfection of God’s creation. In a silly and stupid manner, I stared, stared and couldn’t stop staring. I wished I could say it loud and let the world know. Words never came, courage eluded me, boldness failed me still I couldn’t stop staring! What are you made of? Who created you? How did you get here? Are you the famous Ellen of Troy? Were you born this elegant? A thousand questions on my mind but none came out still I couldn’t stop staring! All of these happened a little while after we met for the first time. And ever since then, I still can’t stop staring. People might call it LUST or PROMISCUITY but I tell them it is pre and sincere admiration of a...

Have you ever wondered what your main purpose in life is? Have you ever thought of what you were created to do in this life? Is it to become that Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer or Business mogul you’ve always wanted to be? Or to enjoy all the good things life has to offer? I talk to you this wonderful day not to preach the gospel to you but to sensitize you about what your existence in this life and the hereafter; the vanity of life and the eternal joy in heaven. Having established this fact, I would like to ask you a question; what are you in this world for? You might say you’re here to live just as everyone does but I want to tell you that this world is just an arena for everyone to come and worship the Almighty while you engage in various transactions with family, friends, associates and acquaintances. These transactions are not necessarily monetary but spiritual. How you relate with people, how you follow God’s orders, how you obey religious doctrines among several other things are w...

  Just like it is mentioned in Oxford Dictionary of Current English, ‘exist’ means ‘to be real or present’ and ‘to be alive’. But these definitions don’t really signify usefulness to others: one can alive and be termed as ‘a living dead’ or ‘a non-present living thing’ . This is in contrast to the meaning of the word ‘living’ which can mean ‘someone to continue to be in existence’ ; this can further be broken down into a person being functional, useful or of use to the individual or the totality of the people around. When one is living, he or she can be of use to him or herself, the locality he or she resides, the state and the country at large. This is seen from the Utilitarianism point of view where the belief that the right course of action is what leads to the greatest happiness of the greatest number of people is being upheld. Living should be significantly aimed at being useful as opposed to being in existence. We all should try as much as possible to be useful living...

Judging and comparing yourself to others is a major waste of time. This thinking halts progress and inhibits your forward motion. It kills your vibe. It makes you lose your grip on life. Decide what you want to do with your life today. Never let other people tell you what you want. Never settle for less or the average. Never short-change yourself for others. If you think you are doing better than the average person, you are an average person. Break the barrier, evolve, develop, make every opportunity yours. Positive thinking is your first recipe for success. Think of the good and bright things. Discard all thoughts of negativity. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience. Why worry about what your perceived limit is? When you can actually stop worrying and start working towards becoming a better person. Worry is like a dark room, because dark rooms are where negatives...

Leadership! A term millions of heads thinks they have its attributes. Being a leader is being a redeemer. The responsibility of the majority lies on the shoulder of their leaders. His flaw is their flaws as his triumph is also their victory. Who is a Leader? A leader is that individual who at the detriment of his own pleasure, sacrifices for the people he is appointed, chosen or elected to preside over. He should be revolutionary. He needs to be innovative, charismatic, vigorous and virtuous. A leader must rise above all obstacles in order to meet up expectations. So much is usually expected from a leader because he is there to lead and when you lead, people give you their trust and belief in you. We all are leaders of one group, party, congregation or nation. We all are born leaders irrespective of our number or position in the family. Lead your nation into greatness. Propel your people into great achievement and success. Never let anyone deny you of your leadership right becaus...

He has a lot of responsibilities to deal with in his family. He has a lot of responsibilities to himself. He is always held responsible for his actions and the actions of people under him. He has to be perfect in his ways even if perfection is a fiction. He struggles, hustles, hurries, runs, walks, squats, jumps and strolls just to get his tasks done. He has to meet family objectives, he surely wants to achieve personal goals and in the process has set standard for others. He never turns deaf ears whenever he is called. He has to be wide awake even if he wants to sleep. He asks for forgiveness for sins he didn’t commit. He must pay for what another person mistakenly commits. The young man wants to impress the generality of people and ends up depressed. He wishes for things to fall in place at the snap of the fingers but reverse is the case; he has to work morning, afternoon and night even if the pain of yesterday’s labour still lingers. The young man wants to be loved but the peo...

Who are you? Do you know who you are? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Has anyone ever asked you who you are? Do you wish to know who you are? If your answers to these questions are Yes, then you need to know who really you are before you can ascertain you know yourself. Many people reply the question ‘who are you?’ with the answer ‘My name is Mr. A or Miss B’. Is this right? Yes, but not absolutely correct. This is because who you are is not just your name, culture, skin colour or profession but what you stand for, what your values are, how you perceive life in general ,your actions and reactions, your aims, goals and objectives, your aesthetics and your Mission and Vision in your endeavours. We can now see that the question ‘who are you?’ is not just asking your name, profession and qualification but it is a question that requires an answer includes all the aforementioned things. Though, you might say ‘I can’t tell just anybody about all these things whenever I am as...

Going by the Dictionary meaning of the word ‘Trust’, according to Wikitionary.org , Trust is defined as ‘’confidence in or reliance on some person or quality.’’ With this simple meaning of Trust, we can see that having trust in someone really means a lot. Firstly, because the trustee has both confidence and reliance on the trusted . Secondly, this should be also respected because it takes good respect along with honour and dignity for someone to have trust in another person. Once the trust has been betrayed, I tell you, for the average man, that is the end of it all. One cannot gain that credibility again due to the fact that no matter the amount of pleading from the person who has lost his or her credibility, he or she already has a dual-personality to that individual whose trust has been betrayed. He or she might find it hard to stand up for that person again or even believe the utterances of that individual. Trust doesn’t necessarily mean just the monetary aspect only bu...

Like the mantra of the current President of Nigeria in person of President Muhammadu Buhari, many Nigerians if not all clamour for change in a lot of things ranging from the government policies, social , political, economic status and many other areas of their lives. This is a very good thing to be factual because there is a saying that goes thus : ‘Change is the only permanent thing in life’. But the BIG QUESTION comes in two different areas. The first being ‘ what type of change do we want?’ This also comes in two dimensions; Positive or Negative Change? Secondly, ‘how is this change going to take place?’ Saying is easy but actualisation of what has been said is the main problem and this is very evident in many societies of the world. We all want drastic changes in our lives (be it positive or negative change) but we do a little as regards how that change we want is going to take place. Change is not a spontaneous thing and so it requires effective planning and strategy ...

Have you ever forced a relationship? If you have been doing this before, please STOP IT!. It is not worth it at all. Why would you make yourself that cheap? HUMANS as I believe, are the peak of God’s creation and with that simple fact, you should know that you are a carefully created being. If they don’t want to be friends with you, my dear please let them go. Although everybody needs somebody, but it should be the right person and not the unworthy ones. Why would someone think he or she is too good, big   or unique to be FRIENDS with you? Are they that special? Even celebrities have common people as best friends. Presidents are pals to some local people and all these people get along very well without any difficulty. To you all claiming too big and special to associate or very unique to get along with people, I say ‘WEHDONE SIR’ and ‘WEHDONE MA’. More grease to your elbows. Keep doing what you’re doing! I just hope that it doesn’t get too late before you realise how bad y...